Ten Theories About Love And Couples That Will Blow Your Mind

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Love is a complicated thing. It can be difficult to understand, and it’s not something that you can just put in a box or give an explanation for. But what if we could?  What if there were some way of explaining the exact reason why people are attracted to each other? Why do we fall in love with certain people? Why does one person seem like the perfect match for us while another seems totally out of our league? And what about when things don’t work out as planned – where did we go wrong, why couldn’t this have been “the one”? Well, here are ten theories about love and couples that will blow your mind!

10 Theories about love and couples

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1. Love is a chemical reaction: Love is  often described as a “chemical reaction” because it involves the release of dopamine, oxytocin, and other neurotransmitters in the brain.

We often talk about love being a “chemical reaction” – and it turns out there may be some truth to that. When we are attracted to someone, our brains release chemicals like dopamine and serotonin which can lead to feelings of pleasure, excitement, and even obsession. So in a way, you could say that we are literally addicted to love!

2. Love is all about timing:

We’ve all heard the saying “timing is everything” – and when it comes to love, that may be true. If two people meet at the wrong time (e.g. they’re not ready for a relationship), then it’s unlikely that anything will come of it. But if the timing is right, then there’s a much greater chance that things will work out. 

3. Love is a choice: While love may feel like it happens to us, research suggests that love is actually a choice. A study published in 2014 found that people who felt they had more control over their relationships were more likely to report being in love.

4. Love is sacrifice: A famous quote from Dr. Seuss says, “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” This may be true for some, as research suggests that love involves making sacrifices for our partners.

5. Love is pain: The saying goes that “love hurts,” and although this may not be literally true, research suggests that there is some truth to it. A study published in 2015 found that people who reported being in love were more likely to also report experiencing pain.

6. Love is an addiction: Love has often been compared to an addiction, and there is some research to support this idea. A study published in 2014 found that people in love showed signs of activity in the same brain regions as people with substance addictions.

7. Love is a mental illness: While love may be wonderful, it can also be mentally and emotionally challenging. A study published in 2011 found that people in love were more likely to experience symptoms of mania, such as inflated self-esteem and decreased need for sleep.

8. Love is a social construct: The way we experience love is shaped by the culture we live in. A study published in 2010 found that people from different cultures have different ideas about what love is and how it should be expressed.

9. Love is universal: While love may be experienced differently in different cultures, there is evidence to suggest that the feeling of love is universal. A study published in 2009 found that people from all over the world reported similar experiences when they were in love.

10. Love changes over time: The love we feel for our partners often changes over time. A study published in 2008 found that couples who had been together for a long time reported feeling more committed and less passionate than they did when they first got together.


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Love is a complex emotion that has been the subject of much research. While there is still much to learn about love, the theories listed above provide some insight into this fascinating topic. Do you agree with these theories? What do you think love is? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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